The Un Happy Valentines Day

“Not your typical Valentine’s Blog” I can imagine a reader saying. In this era of positive messaging casting a favorable light on all things, including social media, we fail to recognize that heartbreak is also real. For some people, the day set aside for love is a painful memory of a love lost. This Valentine’s Day is tough for me and others who may be grieving for a parent, spouse, child, or friend. You are not alone, and these feelings are important to recognize.

When I asked Siri “what are some ways to get over heartbreak,” this is what I was told.

1. Lean into your feelings.
2. Focus on self-compassion, not self-esteem.
3. Turn to others.
4. Pursue your interests or hobbies.
5. Avoid social media.
6. Give yourself grace.
7.  Keep the focus on yourself and self-care.

Given that abbreviated list, if sending flowers to yourself is helpful, don’t feel guilty; just do it. If you find comfort in eating your favorite chocolate, allow yourself to indulge. However, if your feelings lead you to despair, pick up the phone and call a friend or a healthcare provider. You do not have to endure your situation alone. At JMHS, our mental health therapists are here to help without judgment and only with sincere compassion. Please call 320-769-4323 to schedule an appointment.

Alfred Tennyson coined the line “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

Be kind to yourself and find peace this Valentine’s Day!

Kris Jacobson,  LNHA, LALD, MBA
JMHS CEO